Is it possible to have a romantic relationship without attachment? Just based on pure love and with equanimity?
I won’t say that all relationships must end; but if a relationship doesn’t end, one of the partners will die.
When we knew that my partner was dying, I think then we both/each experienced more love and less attachment than we had previously.
- Perhaps that is inevitable, the only sane response to dying.
- Or perhaps we were fortunate, we allowed each other that experience towards the end.
- Perhaps we were unfortunate, we didn’t allow each other that experience when we were younger (and instead had less love and more attachment during our earlier life together)
Sankha might be right: we might have been better to have been friends than to have “loved” each other.