There are probably hundreds of components that make up a great relationship, but I’m going to address some of the ones that make the biggest difference.
Whether a friendship, family, or intimate partner, when you adopt and include these components in your relationships, they will improve. But, just like I mention in the show, things go a lot better when the other people in your relationships also include them too.
When it’s one sided, it doesn’t go too far. But when it works, it can be completely satisfying and enjoyable.
“You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection.”
If you’ve been listening to this show for a while, you may be able to piece together an underlying theme I repeat over and over again, and that is that in order to live an amazingly satisfying life, you need to be yourself and love yourself.
I don’t say it like that exactly, as I like to get into the “how” of things instead of just saying, “Be yourself!” After all, I should know the phrase, “Be yourself” doesn’t always communicate what that really means. I really believed I was being myself for about 36 years of my life!
Have you ever felt that you’ve been authentic only to find out there was more to you than you realized?
I’m a generally calm and easy going person. I’ve been this way all my life. But, I learned something in my 30s and that was that I never really stood up for myself.
When I learned to do that, I was still the same calm, easy-going person, but soon I realized how much I was hiding from the world. I really thought I was being authentic. But in hindsight, it’s clear to see that I was being protective.