It was one of the most painful and amazing adventures that I have ever been on and I would like to humbly share my insights on “conscious relating” and some keys to making it work.
What makes a relationship “conscious?”
A relationship is conscious when both participants intend (although they might not always get there) to stay aware, open and uncompromisingly authentic at all times, and they agree to use the relationship to grow, learn, heal and evolve together.
This sounds great in theory (and, of course, it is great—I wouldn’t want it any other way!) but conscious relating isn’t a walk in the park. Making a commitment to use a relationship for growth is kind of like giving an open invitation for all your “stuff” to show up in the context of your relating.
In a way, conscious relationship is the mutual dedication to create a container, a safe space, and for everything that arises in that space to be met with honesty and love.
In a conscious relationship, there is no place for our old masks, games and pretenses.